That love between man and woman that is neither planned nor willed but somehow imposes itself upon human beings was called eros by the ancient Greeks. Let us note straight away that the Greek Old Testament uses the word eros only twice, while the New Testament does not use it at all: of the three Greek words for love, eros, philia (the love of friendship) and agape, New Testament writers prefer the last, which occurs rather infrequently in Greek usage.8 Erotic love is not the only meaning of eros,